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Vaginal changes and sex


Vaginal changes

The hormonal changes and sleep disturbance at menopause can themselves affect mood and depress libido. Unfortunately, their effects may be compounded by psychological factors. In middle age some women can view the loss of fertility and changes to skin, hair and shape as signs that they no longer have sex appeal. This can become a self-fulfilling prophesy if they cease to care about their sexuality and avoid intimacy. If they also experience vaginal dryness and painful intercourse, loss of libido may increase further.

Atrophic vaginitis / vaginal atrophy

Low oestrogen causes the normal cells lining the vagina to be replaced by different ones that create a much thinner lining. This leaves nerve fibre endings close to the surface of the vagina and vulnerable to stimulation from friction during penetrative sex. Normal bacteria that live in a healthy vagina disappear as it becomes less acid so that infections become more common.

Symptoms include vaginal dryness, painful intercourse (dyspareunia), itching, burning, soreness, and urinary infection. Within three years of menopause almost half of women experience vaginal dryness to some extent. Currently very few – only around one in three or fewer - either seek medical help or receive advice and treatment to resolve the problem.

Tips to help yourself



Female sexual dysfunction

In addition to the changes during menopause that lead to vaginal dryness and painful intercourse, you may experience other problems such as loss of libido, frequent urinary tract infections, and weak bladder that impact on sex drive.

Classic symptoms are lack of interest in sex, lack of arousal, and difficulty with orgasm7.

Fatigue, stress, and lack of sleep can contribute to lack of sexual desire. It is important to try to sleep well and eat a well balanced diet for energy.

Making time for sex is important – going to bed early or remaining in bed in the morning. Massage, caressing, and relaxation techniques can help to stimulate sexual desire.

If problems do arise due to vaginal dryness it is important not to get frustrated or to force sexual intercourse. It is important not to lay any blame on either partner. Try again later.

Some women find psychological counselling helpful, to discuss difficult issues with a third party or to openly discuss any issues together with their partner.

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